Damaged

Just because love hurts and its a cool song.

Danity Kane- Damaged

Online Drama, Oh my!

HE’S MINE N GOT B*TCHES HATIN ME! HA HA . . . HATE ON

STOP YOUR FANTASIES. U NOT IMPORTANT. HAHAH

What compels people to post all their business on the internet? When I see headlines, like the ones above, I wonder, is that really necessary? I mean clearly people are trying to send a message to someone and want to embarrass them, but in the end, I think they look pretty dumb. I’m not against putting your mood or what you’re doing, but to put your business out there in a mocking, bird head way, only makes the postee look bad. I guess the one good thing about it is that it’s definitely entertaining, but why? For the love of God, why?!

These statements only cause more drama and make the postee look immature. I say, if you have a problem handle it head on and in a personal way. By making these comments online it shows that the person that you’re attacking is important to you and that you take the time to customize your personal space for them. Why give that person that time and dedication?

Now, I’m not going to deny that I haven’t thought about posting things and seeking vengeance through the internet, but then I think, how pathetic is it to sit there and take the time to create these posts and whatever else to get at that person? It just shows that they are important and have made a big enough impact in your life to take time to focus on them. Don’t waste your energy, what goes around, comes around. I’m not saying that you have to sit around and let people talk about you and do bad things to you, but a simple email or one phone call is enough to let them know wassup. Once you made your point, move on, they’ll get madder when you ignore them.

People flourish on drama and attention, but when you ignore them, they’ll feel belittled and will be sitting around pissed off that they couldn’t get to you. Let them think what they want; the time will come when they have to deal with whatever bad things that they’ve done.

 

Gym Class Heroes look for love on MySpace

A little ditty about finding love on MySpace from Gym Class Heroes. . .

Gym Class Heroes-New Friend Request

Entice, Don’t Fight

Do you think that by constantly telling your boyfriend about the excessive time he spends on the internet is going to make him stop doing it? Well, think again. Although it’s good to be open and honest, with guys you can only take it so far. They just have a short attention span and aren’t very patient. So, I call on you to use your feminine wile. Men never listen to what we say and actions do speak louder than words.

We might not notice it, but we women always have to talk about everything! And don’t get me wrong, talking is great, but everything doesn’t merit a talk just because it bugs you, sometimes you have to use ingenuity. There’s a reason why Eve convinced Adam to eat the apple and why King Henry VIII divorced his Queen for Anne Boleyn, and that reason is women’s power to seduce and conquer. Seduction doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual, but just find ways instead of words to have your partner do your bidding.

Example: You walk in and your man barely notices you when you walk in because he’s glued to the computer, instead of saying, “You see! You never pay attention to me,” try saying, “Hey Babe, I brought you some of your favorite cookies. Come to the couch so that we can have some cookies and milk.” Then top it off with a kiss and an enticing sample of a neck massage.

Guys respond better when you’re not nagging; for some reason, talking gives men a headache. So use your charm to get your way, it’ll avoid an argument and you’ll both be happy.

To Spy or Not To Spy

To be or not to be – That is the question.
Whether ‘tis nobler in the mind to suffer.
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles
And by opposing, end them.

                                                                                                                                    Hamlet 3.1.64-68

To be a spy or not to be a spy–That is truly the question. The internet has created a new area of privacy and secrets that were once subject to phones, letters and person-to-person interaction. With these new boundaries, new forms of jealousy and anxieties have arisen. Because of the internet we are less informed about what our partners are doing and who they’re talking to. This can cause insecurities because you have no idea what your partner’s doing and hence you feel compelled to spy and invade their privacy, which you shouldn’t do.

Why? Well, besides it being illegal, it causes more trust issues. Your partner becomes more private, withdrawn, and resentful because their privacy has been threatened and you have clearly shown a huge lack of trust. Spying is also all consuming and bits of information won’t let you rest. It’s better to just let things go because eventually everything always comes to light. The same way that love is blind, you should trust blindly. So, ‘tis nobler to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune because once you take arms against a sea of trouble that your mind has fabricated, you can only come out the loser.

The Negatives of Love

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

- Neil Gaiman

In France, crimes of passion are not judged as harshly as other offenses, and it’s shocking at first because isn’t something done under the guise of love just as bad as any other crime under any other circumstances? I have to agree with the French, at least a little bit. Love is so close to mental illness, you don’t see things as clearly, hence love is blind. When you’re in love, you’re in rapture; it takes over you and all common sense.

Love gives one such a strong since of euphoria that nothing else matters because you’re so happy and complacent. When you’re in love, you want things to work out because you know that this is it, this is what makes you happy. Since love makes you happy, erratic behavior arises when it’s threatened. I mean, who wants their happiness taken away? I’m not saying that this justifies crime because then everyone would use that line, but I guess, I sympathize with people that have been hurt by love (under normal circumstances i.e. no hurting other people).

It’s difficult to embrace the idea of love because the end results are usually 25-75 meaning most likely you’ll end up the loser or hurt, but not only does it hurt your emotions but it also hurts your ego because usually when you end up hurt someone had forewarned you about the consequences. Why didn’t you listen from the beginning? Because you’re in love!

What I wonder is why does love usually end up in tragedy? From Romeo & Juliet to Britney Spears and Kevin Federline, it’s all bad. Really think about the last time that you heard a happy love story? And that brings me to my next question, is love still out there? If it was, wouldn’t we hear about happy endings more often? When you lose your love, is it as simple as finding someone else? I don’t think so because when you love, you give up a piece of yourself and who wants to go around giving up chunks of themselves? You’ll end up being nothing.

So, why fall in love in the first place if you’re going to be suffering angst and sadness at the end? Honestly, I don’t know! But it’s for you to decide if the pain is worth it in the end.

Pay Me, I love you

Does money matter when it comes to love? I think that we like to believe that love conquers all, but when today’s survival and pleasure are so dependent on finance, how do you make it work when there’s no dough?

I think it all depends on your personal ambitions and personality. But even if one doesn’t aspire to be much, can you be with someone that can’t feed you, clothed you or put a roof over your head? I think that it’s definitely possible; love defies all the odds. When you really care about someone all those things don’t matter because love means happiness, being with that person is usually enough to erase all the superficial pleasures. Of course, I think romantic dinners enhance a relationship and shows appreciation but it’s not everything. I think we’re conditioned to believe that the tangible things are what express love, but love is sacrifice and respect.

I can’t blame the people of today for thinking that love needs to be expressed through teddy bears and diamonds because that’s what we’ve been fed, and I’ve even bought into it, but a walk in the park is just as romantic, a simple smile, and a genuine I love you are enough. Sometimes we aim so high at giving that we end up not giving anything when a 99¢ balloon is more than generous. So, I say love don’t cost a thing!

Click, I like you.

Hello,

I have been email “flirting” with a co-worker of mine for a few weeks now. I am really unsure as to whether or not this constitutes actual flirting and also what the best next steps are to take this out of the internet and bring it into the real world. We have had a few interactions both inside and outside the office but I’m not really sure what I should do now.

Please help!
Confused

 

Dear Confused,

In this day and age, email flirting is the same as flirting, in its traditional term, but your situation is a little different because you and your co-worker already know each other, so why not knock-out this email flirting and flirt with your co-worker in person? Considering you’ve had some interaction, why hasn’t the flirting been going on in person?

Obviously, you’re going to have to come at your co-worker stronger and let him know that you’re interested. Make a joke about your email flirting and suggest you go out for something casual, like lunch, or if its not a comfortable co-worker situation i.e. he’s your boss, get drinks after-hours. So, close that message box and open the door to a cute coffee shop!

A Cause des Garçons

Oh, les garçons! Boys will be boys. Here’s a song blaming boys for everything. Why not?

Yelle- A cause des Garçons 

The New Frontier of Mating

The internet has brought a new frontier on the dating game. Gone are the days of wondering if your soul mate is on the other side of the world, now you can find him through MySpace, Facebook, and the thousands of other social networks.

In a time where we spend more time on our PDA’s and computers, internet dating is the natural transition and it doesn’t seem so taboo anymore. Ten years ago, only freaks, sex addicts, and the desperate found love online, but now it’s okay to find your other half on the internet and admit it. No more awkward lies about where you met your boyfriend or husband, you can just come out and say it loud and proud, “I found love online!”

The internet is a flourishing network full of interesting people that don’t compare to the duds we come across in everyday life. It’s okay to take a look at the profile of the cute guy with the multi-million dollar shipping company and the house on the French Riviera! Actually, it’s a blessing to be able to connect to such interesting people that we wouldn’t encounter on a regular basis. The internet opens the door to find love in the most unexpected places, but of course, as in life, we have to venture out and take a chance. So, next time you see a profile that peaks your interest, just “click!”