A Great Message on Internet Drama

When things get sour, why do we stay?

Why do we stay when things are sour? Is it because we’re masochists or is it because the most cynical of us believes there’s always hope and love?

 

I think it’s the latter. We’re constantly asking ourselves, why do we stay in bad relationships? The answer is hope. Why do we tolerate all the bull crap that our partner puts us through? Because we love. It seems so corny, but it’s true and we would be lying to ourselves if we didn’t admit it for at least a second. If nothing is good, if it never seems worth it and we’re giving more of  ourselves than him/her is giving us, why do we stay? Because we’re so in love, involved and hopeful, that we don’t have the courage to admit, that it’s just not working.

 

It’s not only about the love and hope, there’s also the fear and pain of losing someone that you invested so much in, in hopes that something great and long-term would come out of it. It’s kind of like the stock, we invest in stock hoping that it will build collateral and when it plummets it hurts because you risked so much and in the end get nothing.

 

But risks are part of life and feelings need to be dealt with. Now, no one is saying to get rid of someone before you feel comfortable doing so, but if someone treats you bad once and twice and three times, most likely they will treat you bad forever, and you don’t want to wait around for forever to have someone consider your feelings. So, analyze your feelings and evaluate your relationship. Is this really what I want? Make a list of what you want and what your partner offers you and take this into consideration. I’m not saying let a list dictate your life, but take that tangible list into consideration versus your intangible feelings when making a decision about staying with your boyfriend/girlfriend or moving on.

 

These are just tips because I know, trust I know, it’s easier to stay than to go, but then think about the daily pain and then think about the long run, The long run you’ll get over it. The short-term, do you want to hurt everyday?

 

I mean, think about it, once things go sour, do they ever get sweet again back? Can you eat spoiled fruit; do you want stale, fungi bread? You could eat it, but it wouldn’t taste very good, would it? That’s similar to a relationship, once it leaves a bad feeling, it’ll probably always muster bad feelings.

 

So don’t rush to break up with someone if you’re not ready but don’t delay either because life is too short!

How to Handle Internet Drama (The Right Way!)

HOW TO HANDLE INTERNET DRAMA:

1.     Pamper yourself!

2.     Go out with friends!

3.     Watch a good movie.

4.     Get some sleep.

5.     Clean your room.

6.     Go to that restaurant you always wanted to go to.

7.     Write.

8.     Read.

9.     Dance.

10.  Turn off the computer!

Internet Drama

The internet is still a very mysterious place. We don’t know who’s on there and what they are capable of doing to our lives. Because of the internet social networking many people that we don’t want can haphazardly come in our lives and mess everything up. That’s what internet drama is about, it’s the most unwanted and unexpected drama. You expect people in your life to give headaches but people that you’ve never met? Give me a break.

 

People on the internet can bring so much grief to your life by inventing rumors, posting negative things about you and seducing your boyfriend/girlfriend. Internet drama is the worst kind because it’s so unexpected and how do you go about handling when someone can easily hide behind a computer screen or do you dismiss it as childish and not worth your time, but what about when internet drama has a serious impact on your life? What if negative images or comments are posted and destroy your reputation? What if your relationship is destroyed because someone unexpected emails your special someone? How do you handle it?

 

I always think that confrontation is the best way to handle something, but how can you confront someone in cyberspace? It’s nearly impossible because, not only can they ignore you, but they might be those pathetic people that enjoy drama, and think that you’re making them “famous” by confronting them.

 

So, what to do?

 

My reasonable, practical, classy self, says walk away. It’s not worth your time. Do damage control and fix the situation yourself or if it’s a relationship situation then good riddance that you got rid such a loser that would let someone on the internet make him/her lose someone as great as you.

 

But then again. . .

 

My devious, jealous self says find the biatch’s info and make her/him pay for it!

 

Fortunately, my practical trumps the devious side because in the end when I imagine myself wasting time to get payback when I can do some many other things with the time that I waste on that person, I feel stupid. Why waste an ounce of my time on someone so miserable and immature that they have time to start drama in my life?! Not worth it!

 

 The answer to internet drama? Turn off your modem and go do something for yourself!

Never Trust the internet!

Think before you click people! A Danish commercial spreading awareness on the internet! Half-kidding, I know you’re all responsible!

 

 

 

Praise the Man!

The internet has provided a forum for men to recreate themselves into superheroes and gain the admiration of other girls. While, you’re not constantly applauding your man’s masculine bravado, another girl on the internet, who has no idea about his flaws, is his #1 fan. And the thing is that your man is going to fall for it. No one can resist flattery and your man won’t see anything wrong with it because it’s not physical. Things have to be very tangible for a man to understand that it’s not okay.

 

So instead of dealing with the possibility of another woman, don’t hesitate to show your man some love. Everyone needs to be loved and men are no exception. Men love to be admired. We may think that they are insensitive and cold-hearted but they are actually very needy.

 

I’ll never forget an instance when a young man ran across a #1 fan on the internet who constantly praised him and sent him booty shaking videos, even though he has a girlfriend (what’s wrong with women?) and as soon as the girlfriend neglected him for one second he was on the phone with the girl and they suddenly were the best of friends.

 

And that’s how it happened, now, fortunately, nothing further happened with the young man and his female fanatic, but that’s how quickly a man can be snatched up and with the internet providing a faster means to meet people, it can happen even quicker.

 

Now, I’m not saying lose your self-respect and integrity, but being nice and cutting back on the nagging can do wonders to a relationship!

 

 

Apologies

I want to apologize for the dramatic lack of content for the past week, but be prepared for a major comeback very soon!

How to Break Up

Hilarious. Sad. But so true. . . .

 

Good News!

A study shows that it takes half as long as we think to get over a breakup. Yay!!!

Trust is important?! Really?

I don’t know how I fooled myself into thinking that a relationship can survive without trust as long as the love and desire is there because boy was I wrong. Trust is the single most important thing for a relationship’s survival because no trust means insecurities and insecurities means arguments and arguments lead to the loss of love, and thus the end of the relationship. Now that you know that no trust means disaster, how do you maintain the trust? Or better yet, can you get it back? I say it’s really hard to forgive and forget when you’ve given your heart to someone and they just trampled it and fed it to the dogs, but, I’ll be an optimist for a second.

 

Well, first, how do you maintain the trust? I think respect and security are key to maintaining trust in a relationship because when you respect each other’s privacy, then your partner doesn’t feel the need to hide things from you. More respect equals more sharing and less secrets. Also, respect that your partner has a life apart from you and doesn’t necessarily need to tell you every single, little detail of his/her day.

 

It’s important to establish a line of communication by being confident that your partner will share and include you in all aspects of his/her life. If you are constantly scared that your partner is going to cheat on you and insecure of yourself, then that’s a huge problem. By being insecure you are constantly questioning yourself and your lover and that gets annoying. If you’re with someone, be confident that they want to be with you and be secure with your relationship and know that this person doesn’t have to be with you, but chooses to be.

 

Now, let’s say that your partner breaks your trust, you can leave the situation or you can try to fix it. If you try to fix it, you really have to try. That means no smart comments, no snooping, and no unusual questions. I’m not saying that you have to completely turn the other cheek because it would be stupid to go through an experience and not learn from it, but you have let your guard down or nothing is going to change. You can’t expect your relationship to go back to how you it was before because the trust was broken and things are different, but you can start anew and really make a blatant and obvious effort to normalize the situation. Things won’t get better if you’re muttering under your breath or always fighting or suspicious of your partner, if you can’t let the past go, then the relationship needs to be left alone.