Forgive Him, Forgive Her Not

It has been said time and time again that women are more forgiving and kinder than men. We are emotional beings and men the rational ones (although, I don’t personally completely agree). I always see women forgiving men for their lying, cheating, and deceit, but hardly do I see men forgive women. Why is it that when men are done they’re DONE? And women forgive and forgive until they finally wear themselves out emotionally?

I think that people should treat people the way they want to be treated. If someone forgives you, you, naturally, expect that the person being forgiven would forgive you as well; but that is not the case, men make rash and firm decisions about what they want to do and women consider their emotions, and the situation as a whole and that seems to kick them in the face.

It’s not fair. It’s not fair that women seem to get the short-end of the stick, but then does that mean that we have to be more decisive and strong about our decisions? I guess so.  So, when you feel in your heart of hearts that you’ve been hurt, don’t forgive because mostly likely you’ll get hurt again, and again and again; and once you act out you’ll  be judged harsher than you’ve judged them. So don’t take the risk of getting the boot when you wanted to do it first.

 

The Naked Truth

 

Men are extremely visual, maybe too visual sometimes. Their eyes never fail to roam over to the next booty passing by, they purchase porn, and nudey magazines like it their jobs, and in the end we turn the other cheek because those women are unattainable or they’re strangers, BUT what if those nude pictures are of an EX and they’re dated today’s date?

First thing that comes to your head is, “Is he cheating on me?” Second, come the self-doubt, “if he loves me, why would he do that?” and, “am I not good-looking enough?”

Of course, the answers to these questions are relative, but if someone causes you to ask these questions, then you need to get in control of the situation because a relationship should never make you doubt yourself, and if you don’t want to necessarily let go, then you need to do you, really. Because as I see it, when a guy has naked, recent pictures of an ex, he’s obviously still speaking to his ex, he, obviously, has the desire to see his ex naked, and he’s obviously still hung up on her.

So, what do you do about? It really depends what you want out of it. If you want the truth, then good luck because when men get caught, they will lie through their teeth until they all fall out. You won’t get the truth from a guy unless you have all possible escapes covered. I know of one situation where a friend of mine would constantly find naked pictures of her bf’s ex on his computer.

The first time, it was of two of his exes, and he said, “Oh, what pictures? There are no pictures.” The raging girlfriend thought she had lost her mind. She saw them and deleted the pictures in her rage, so deleted pictures coupled with his denial created a scapegoat for him.

The second time she found weekly emails from one of his ex with provocative pictures totaling well over 50. His excuse, “Oh she didn’t send me that! They’ve been circulating naked pictures of her and they sent them to me. But I don’t even talk to her.” Yet, his girlfriend had sent a reply message to the emails, “saying “Don’t send me these types of pictures,” from the bf’s account. The bf admitted that the girl mysteriously received the email (although she wasn’t the one who sent the pictures) and sent him a message cursing him out.

Now this relationship, clearly, has all types of problems. There’s no trust, no respect, and no love. Yeh, the gf shouldn’t have been going through his stuff, but why does the bf recent pics of his ex? I think that men are so obsessed with the body that they risk everything for a naked woman, and I think women have tolerated so much that men have no appreciation for what they have. But then what about the ex that is fully aware that the guy is involved and knows the girl? What is happening to our self-control people?!

Men need to appreciate what they have and focus on the woman in their life. Women, stop being nosey, but if you feel that you have to look through man’s things, it’s time to walk away, and EXES, you’re the EX, so step off; have respect for yourself and others especially if you have a baby. . . .

Men are NYC taxi drivers?

So, you know when you break-up with a bf of a couple years because he doesn’t want to marry you and then he marries the chick he meets 2 months later? Well, apparently this article explains it all.

Men’s commitment issues have to do with a theory that they are NYC taxi drivers. They work hard all day, but when they’re done, they’re done. Meaning men will date and date to their hearts content and when they’re tired of dating they stick to the woman who happens to be there when they’re done.

Now I don’t want to be a complete cynic but this makes sense. Why else would a man not be satisfied by the back-breaking girlfriend who’s been his everything for years and yet the girl can’t get anything out of the guy? Maybe because he’s just not ready, it’s not that he doesn’t love nor that he doesn’t entirely appreciate you, but guys aren’t quick to settle. They like cruising.

But to not completely kill the romance, does a guy really just settle? Is all the affection, love and effort that girls pour into relationships a complete waste of time? Should women be just as big of jerks as men are, because it doesn’t really matter in the end?

I don’t think so because I believe that we all have the ability to charm someone and I think some men have to have some common sense and see a great thing when he has it . . . or maybe not because when I think about how many of those “he didn’t appreciate me until he couldn’t have me” stories have we heard? Many. But I guess this the reason, men don’t appreciate what they have but when they stop and are ready to settle the ideal girl is gone because he wasn’t smart enough to keep her.

But why would men shoot themselves in the foot like that? They have to be programmed that way. In their mind it’s “My way or the highway.” You have to be on their playing field which is when they’re ready then they’ll give you that commitment, but are women suppose to sit around and wait for the guy to come around?

Absolutely not! This is when we get the satisfaction of their regret. Sure the guy will move on, but he’ll always hurt because he knows he should have kept you and that you were the best thing that ever happened to him, but he messed it up.

So ladies, just because men are NYC taxi drivers, it doesn’t mean you have to hop in and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to get kicked out when they’re done. When you see that the cab is either slowing down or driving dangerously, just get out before he forces you out.