The Naked Truth

 

Men are extremely visual, maybe too visual sometimes. Their eyes never fail to roam over to the next booty passing by, they purchase porn, and nudey magazines like it their jobs, and in the end we turn the other cheek because those women are unattainable or they’re strangers, BUT what if those nude pictures are of an EX and they’re dated today’s date?

First thing that comes to your head is, “Is he cheating on me?” Second, come the self-doubt, “if he loves me, why would he do that?” and, “am I not good-looking enough?”

Of course, the answers to these questions are relative, but if someone causes you to ask these questions, then you need to get in control of the situation because a relationship should never make you doubt yourself, and if you don’t want to necessarily let go, then you need to do you, really. Because as I see it, when a guy has naked, recent pictures of an ex, he’s obviously still speaking to his ex, he, obviously, has the desire to see his ex naked, and he’s obviously still hung up on her.

So, what do you do about? It really depends what you want out of it. If you want the truth, then good luck because when men get caught, they will lie through their teeth until they all fall out. You won’t get the truth from a guy unless you have all possible escapes covered. I know of one situation where a friend of mine would constantly find naked pictures of her bf’s ex on his computer.

The first time, it was of two of his exes, and he said, “Oh, what pictures? There are no pictures.” The raging girlfriend thought she had lost her mind. She saw them and deleted the pictures in her rage, so deleted pictures coupled with his denial created a scapegoat for him.

The second time she found weekly emails from one of his ex with provocative pictures totaling well over 50. His excuse, “Oh she didn’t send me that! They’ve been circulating naked pictures of her and they sent them to me. But I don’t even talk to her.” Yet, his girlfriend had sent a reply message to the emails, “saying “Don’t send me these types of pictures,” from the bf’s account. The bf admitted that the girl mysteriously received the email (although she wasn’t the one who sent the pictures) and sent him a message cursing him out.

Now this relationship, clearly, has all types of problems. There’s no trust, no respect, and no love. Yeh, the gf shouldn’t have been going through his stuff, but why does the bf recent pics of his ex? I think that men are so obsessed with the body that they risk everything for a naked woman, and I think women have tolerated so much that men have no appreciation for what they have. But then what about the ex that is fully aware that the guy is involved and knows the girl? What is happening to our self-control people?!

Men need to appreciate what they have and focus on the woman in their life. Women, stop being nosey, but if you feel that you have to look through man’s things, it’s time to walk away, and EXES, you’re the EX, so step off; have respect for yourself and others especially if you have a baby. . . .

He’s Just Not that into You

February 6^th is the release of He’s Just Not that into You, a movie about love in the technology age. It’s just up Internet Drama’s alley.“He’s Just Not that Into You” started off with our favorite show Sex & the City when in Season 6, Berger met up with the gals and told Miranda, “He’s just not that into you.”

I came across an article that gives us real “He’s Just not Into You” signs. Although the phrase seems groundbreaking, I don’t think it’s that simple. Sometimes things do happen and sometimes he might not be that into you, but I don’t think these words should be taken for gospel. Personally.

Hiatus

In an attempt to create balance in my life, I’ve made the conscious decision to not use the computer once I leave work; the result has been the neglect of my dear blog and my other writing projects. But now that I moved on to a job that doesn’t require that I stare at a computer screen for 8 hours and work overtime, I think I feel more comfortable spending some recreational time in front of the big screen. So, all that to say, I’m back. . . Be prepared for some new discoveries in love, on the internet and whatever else inspires me.

Up-to-date on the Ex-date

The web provides us with a plethora of information at our fingertips, and that has been amazing in so many ways, but a downfall in others. It not only gives us educational information or provides us with the closet route to our destination, but it also gives us up-to-date, top of the hour, information on our exes.

 

The past can never be the past when the internet is a database of our personal lives. As much as you want to put someone behind you, they’ll always be in your life, that is, your virtual life.

 

I wonder, how can we let go when that very heavy temptation lays right in front of us a click away. It’s easy to say, “Don’t look,” but let’s be real, you’re going to look. Whether, it is once a week, once a month, or once a year, you’re going to get updated on the ex. Now I don’t think that there’s a firm solution, but it’s annoying that have that information at hand. Before,when you broke up with someone, you would hear updates thru hearsay (if people even dared to mention the blasted man in front of you) or you would have a NY moment when he pops out of nowhere and makes your heart sink to the floor; but now he’s there, in your computer, 24-7 constantly updating his profile, and having little messages from girls saying, “I miss you,” “Love ya, xoxox” and “Thanks for your help!”

 

And you wonder, when did he ever help you, who misses him, does he miss you, he got a new job? A new girlfriend? Wait. Who’s that ? And so the torture begins and continues. But I believe that this is when a bit of self-control needs to be exerted and distractions need to be increased.

 

He moved on, why can’t you? He is missed, why can’t someone miss you. That’s the important thing when coping with the ex-update and that is to update yourself, don’t dwell. Go on with your life because not only is it the healthiest thing to do, but why dwell on someone that has so obviously moved on from you? I mean, really, how pathetic is it to sit there and watch (or read) someone going on with your life, while you’re still dwelling? It’s pretty sad. . .

 

I’m not going to say don’t look, but I will make you feel bad about looking. Don’t dwell, move on, update your life and don’t focus on what’s changing in your ex’s, it’ll only drive you mad and make you look mighty sad, as well as bad . . .

 

**** The rhyming is corny, but it’ll help you remember.

Thanks!

I want to thank everyone who has read, supported, and commented on this blog. Please rest assured that I read all your comments and find them intriguing and insightful and will be responding to all of them.

 

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The Ancient Rituals of Matchmaking . . . Gone?

Back in the days, people met their significant other through a mutual friend. Nowadays, people meet their significant other as a MySpace friend. No longer are people getting setup on blind dates, no longer are you hearing, “Hey I have a friend that’s perfect for you.” In this fast time of technological advancement, all the hard work of finding someone has been completely left to the individual and I think that the internet has a large role in this menacing situation.

 

Why? Simply because the internet is the new “it” scene; it’s where strangers reunite and engage in casual conversation and where most people are looking for their lover. The population is feeling more comfortable with looking for love online and why shouldn’t they with all the options at their fingertips, literally? It’s so much easier to filter male, 23+, no kids, great job than to go to any real-life event and meet someone that meets your criteria.

 

As the web expands, it presents people with more options to limit human contact. But is that a good thing? Easier? Yes. Good? Questionable. As we become more dependent on the internet to find love, we limit the ability to meet people in real-life, and we become less socially adept and we’re stuck behind a computer typing away our feelings.

 

I can’t exactly pinpoint the exact repercussions of limiting ourselves to online dating, but it seems that if we dedicate our lives to finding love online, we’ll lose something when it comes to dating, love, and socializing. As convenient as the internet is, it takes something away from the magic of it all.

 

But the real problem is not when the individual wants to seek love on-line, but when it becomes a collective moment, then it becomes a situation because the stragglers that don’t want to find love on the internet are left behind.

 

So let’s stay inline with the fast times of the tech life, but let’s not forget the sheer joy of coming together at a dinner party, or the joy of introducing one great friend to another and creating a love connection. Let’s not leave all the matchmaking to match.com or eHarmony, because we can create great love connections without the help of 100 page application or a $500 online fee.

Contact Internet Drama

 

Email me at internetdrama@gmail.com with all your questions and concerns.

8 Cute, Insignificant Internet Things you can do that’ll go a long way. . .

1. Play a MSN game with your sweetie.
2. Make sure that they’re your number one on MySpace.
3. Leave cute comments on their page.
4. Send e-cards.
5. Send an email saying you love him/her.
6. Stop online flirts dead in their tracks and let them know that you have a sweetie.
7. Email interesting articles to your girlfriend/boyfriend, let them know you always want to share with them.
8. Turn off the computer and give your boo a hug and your undivided attention.

Internet Drama

The internet is still a very mysterious place. We don’t know who’s on there and what they are capable of doing to our lives. Because of the internet social networking many people that we don’t want can haphazardly come in our lives and mess everything up. That’s what internet drama is about, it’s the most unwanted and unexpected drama. You expect people in your life to give headaches but people that you’ve never met? Give me a break.

 

People on the internet can bring so much grief to your life by inventing rumors, posting negative things about you and seducing your boyfriend/girlfriend. Internet drama is the worst kind because it’s so unexpected and how do you go about handling when someone can easily hide behind a computer screen or do you dismiss it as childish and not worth your time, but what about when internet drama has a serious impact on your life? What if negative images or comments are posted and destroy your reputation? What if your relationship is destroyed because someone unexpected emails your special someone? How do you handle it?

 

I always think that confrontation is the best way to handle something, but how can you confront someone in cyberspace? It’s nearly impossible because, not only can they ignore you, but they might be those pathetic people that enjoy drama, and think that you’re making them “famous” by confronting them.

 

So, what to do?

 

My reasonable, practical, classy self, says walk away. It’s not worth your time. Do damage control and fix the situation yourself or if it’s a relationship situation then good riddance that you got rid such a loser that would let someone on the internet make him/her lose someone as great as you.

 

But then again. . .

 

My devious, jealous self says find the biatch’s info and make her/him pay for it!

 

Fortunately, my practical trumps the devious side because in the end when I imagine myself wasting time to get payback when I can do some many other things with the time that I waste on that person, I feel stupid. Why waste an ounce of my time on someone so miserable and immature that they have time to start drama in my life?! Not worth it!

 

 The answer to internet drama? Turn off your modem and go do something for yourself!

Praise the Man!

The internet has provided a forum for men to recreate themselves into superheroes and gain the admiration of other girls. While, you’re not constantly applauding your man’s masculine bravado, another girl on the internet, who has no idea about his flaws, is his #1 fan. And the thing is that your man is going to fall for it. No one can resist flattery and your man won’t see anything wrong with it because it’s not physical. Things have to be very tangible for a man to understand that it’s not okay.

 

So instead of dealing with the possibility of another woman, don’t hesitate to show your man some love. Everyone needs to be loved and men are no exception. Men love to be admired. We may think that they are insensitive and cold-hearted but they are actually very needy.

 

I’ll never forget an instance when a young man ran across a #1 fan on the internet who constantly praised him and sent him booty shaking videos, even though he has a girlfriend (what’s wrong with women?) and as soon as the girlfriend neglected him for one second he was on the phone with the girl and they suddenly were the best of friends.

 

And that’s how it happened, now, fortunately, nothing further happened with the young man and his female fanatic, but that’s how quickly a man can be snatched up and with the internet providing a faster means to meet people, it can happen even quicker.

 

Now, I’m not saying lose your self-respect and integrity, but being nice and cutting back on the nagging can do wonders to a relationship!