The Naked Truth

 

Men are extremely visual, maybe too visual sometimes. Their eyes never fail to roam over to the next booty passing by, they purchase porn, and nudey magazines like it their jobs, and in the end we turn the other cheek because those women are unattainable or they’re strangers, BUT what if those nude pictures are of an EX and they’re dated today’s date?

First thing that comes to your head is, “Is he cheating on me?” Second, come the self-doubt, “if he loves me, why would he do that?” and, “am I not good-looking enough?”

Of course, the answers to these questions are relative, but if someone causes you to ask these questions, then you need to get in control of the situation because a relationship should never make you doubt yourself, and if you don’t want to necessarily let go, then you need to do you, really. Because as I see it, when a guy has naked, recent pictures of an ex, he’s obviously still speaking to his ex, he, obviously, has the desire to see his ex naked, and he’s obviously still hung up on her.

So, what do you do about? It really depends what you want out of it. If you want the truth, then good luck because when men get caught, they will lie through their teeth until they all fall out. You won’t get the truth from a guy unless you have all possible escapes covered. I know of one situation where a friend of mine would constantly find naked pictures of her bf’s ex on his computer.

The first time, it was of two of his exes, and he said, “Oh, what pictures? There are no pictures.” The raging girlfriend thought she had lost her mind. She saw them and deleted the pictures in her rage, so deleted pictures coupled with his denial created a scapegoat for him.

The second time she found weekly emails from one of his ex with provocative pictures totaling well over 50. His excuse, “Oh she didn’t send me that! They’ve been circulating naked pictures of her and they sent them to me. But I don’t even talk to her.” Yet, his girlfriend had sent a reply message to the emails, “saying “Don’t send me these types of pictures,” from the bf’s account. The bf admitted that the girl mysteriously received the email (although she wasn’t the one who sent the pictures) and sent him a message cursing him out.

Now this relationship, clearly, has all types of problems. There’s no trust, no respect, and no love. Yeh, the gf shouldn’t have been going through his stuff, but why does the bf recent pics of his ex? I think that men are so obsessed with the body that they risk everything for a naked woman, and I think women have tolerated so much that men have no appreciation for what they have. But then what about the ex that is fully aware that the guy is involved and knows the girl? What is happening to our self-control people?!

Men need to appreciate what they have and focus on the woman in their life. Women, stop being nosey, but if you feel that you have to look through man’s things, it’s time to walk away, and EXES, you’re the EX, so step off; have respect for yourself and others especially if you have a baby. . . .

He’s Just Not that into You

February 6^th is the release of He’s Just Not that into You, a movie about love in the technology age. It’s just up Internet Drama’s alley.“He’s Just Not that Into You” started off with our favorite show Sex & the City when in Season 6, Berger met up with the gals and told Miranda, “He’s just not that into you.”

I came across an article that gives us real “He’s Just not Into You” signs. Although the phrase seems groundbreaking, I don’t think it’s that simple. Sometimes things do happen and sometimes he might not be that into you, but I don’t think these words should be taken for gospel. Personally.

Hiatus

In an attempt to create balance in my life, I’ve made the conscious decision to not use the computer once I leave work; the result has been the neglect of my dear blog and my other writing projects. But now that I moved on to a job that doesn’t require that I stare at a computer screen for 8 hours and work overtime, I think I feel more comfortable spending some recreational time in front of the big screen. So, all that to say, I’m back. . . Be prepared for some new discoveries in love, on the internet and whatever else inspires me.

Up-to-date on the Ex-date

The web provides us with a plethora of information at our fingertips, and that has been amazing in so many ways, but a downfall in others. It not only gives us educational information or provides us with the closet route to our destination, but it also gives us up-to-date, top of the hour, information on our exes.

 

The past can never be the past when the internet is a database of our personal lives. As much as you want to put someone behind you, they’ll always be in your life, that is, your virtual life.

 

I wonder, how can we let go when that very heavy temptation lays right in front of us a click away. It’s easy to say, “Don’t look,” but let’s be real, you’re going to look. Whether, it is once a week, once a month, or once a year, you’re going to get updated on the ex. Now I don’t think that there’s a firm solution, but it’s annoying that have that information at hand. Before,when you broke up with someone, you would hear updates thru hearsay (if people even dared to mention the blasted man in front of you) or you would have a NY moment when he pops out of nowhere and makes your heart sink to the floor; but now he’s there, in your computer, 24-7 constantly updating his profile, and having little messages from girls saying, “I miss you,” “Love ya, xoxox” and “Thanks for your help!”

 

And you wonder, when did he ever help you, who misses him, does he miss you, he got a new job? A new girlfriend? Wait. Who’s that ? And so the torture begins and continues. But I believe that this is when a bit of self-control needs to be exerted and distractions need to be increased.

 

He moved on, why can’t you? He is missed, why can’t someone miss you. That’s the important thing when coping with the ex-update and that is to update yourself, don’t dwell. Go on with your life because not only is it the healthiest thing to do, but why dwell on someone that has so obviously moved on from you? I mean, really, how pathetic is it to sit there and watch (or read) someone going on with your life, while you’re still dwelling? It’s pretty sad. . .

 

I’m not going to say don’t look, but I will make you feel bad about looking. Don’t dwell, move on, update your life and don’t focus on what’s changing in your ex’s, it’ll only drive you mad and make you look mighty sad, as well as bad . . .

 

**** The rhyming is corny, but it’ll help you remember.

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A Great Message on Internet Drama

How to Handle Internet Drama (The Right Way!)

HOW TO HANDLE INTERNET DRAMA:

1.     Pamper yourself!

2.     Go out with friends!

3.     Watch a good movie.

4.     Get some sleep.

5.     Clean your room.

6.     Go to that restaurant you always wanted to go to.

7.     Write.

8.     Read.

9.     Dance.

10.  Turn off the computer!

Internet Drama

The internet is still a very mysterious place. We don’t know who’s on there and what they are capable of doing to our lives. Because of the internet social networking many people that we don’t want can haphazardly come in our lives and mess everything up. That’s what internet drama is about, it’s the most unwanted and unexpected drama. You expect people in your life to give headaches but people that you’ve never met? Give me a break.

 

People on the internet can bring so much grief to your life by inventing rumors, posting negative things about you and seducing your boyfriend/girlfriend. Internet drama is the worst kind because it’s so unexpected and how do you go about handling when someone can easily hide behind a computer screen or do you dismiss it as childish and not worth your time, but what about when internet drama has a serious impact on your life? What if negative images or comments are posted and destroy your reputation? What if your relationship is destroyed because someone unexpected emails your special someone? How do you handle it?

 

I always think that confrontation is the best way to handle something, but how can you confront someone in cyberspace? It’s nearly impossible because, not only can they ignore you, but they might be those pathetic people that enjoy drama, and think that you’re making them “famous” by confronting them.

 

So, what to do?

 

My reasonable, practical, classy self, says walk away. It’s not worth your time. Do damage control and fix the situation yourself or if it’s a relationship situation then good riddance that you got rid such a loser that would let someone on the internet make him/her lose someone as great as you.

 

But then again. . .

 

My devious, jealous self says find the biatch’s info and make her/him pay for it!

 

Fortunately, my practical trumps the devious side because in the end when I imagine myself wasting time to get payback when I can do some many other things with the time that I waste on that person, I feel stupid. Why waste an ounce of my time on someone so miserable and immature that they have time to start drama in my life?! Not worth it!

 

 The answer to internet drama? Turn off your modem and go do something for yourself!

Never Trust the internet!

Think before you click people! A Danish commercial spreading awareness on the internet! Half-kidding, I know you’re all responsible!