Women have ruined men

Yes, you read the title of this article correctly, WOMEN HAVE RUINED MEN. Now I am not taking the responsibility away from men or dignity away from women. But women have become a lot more tolerant of men’s b.s. and let them get away with so many things that were never acceptable in the past.

As a result, a man disrespects one woman, she allows it and in turn he disrespects the next one, and the one after that, and so on.  I just believe that men were held up to different standrads before and all responsibility has been taken away from them and they in turn have completely slacked off.

This shift can also be attributed to the feminist movement, where there is such a sense of independence amongst women, that we reject and strip men of chivalrous behavior. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for independence, and a strong sense of entitlement as a woman, but I think that women definitely have to accept some help from men and not see it as a sign of weakness in themselves. We you make someone feel needed, they’ll respond with kindness, but as long as women do everything for themselves and men, the “good man” will continue to be rarity.

Beyond the looks

Men and women complain about the opposite sex. Men can’t seem to find a nice woman and women can’t seem to find a sensitive and nurturing man. The problem is that we don’t know how to look. Society has become extraordinarily superficial and people seem to be forgetting the importance of values and respect, focusing instead on the physical.

Men are no longer looking for the good woman; they’re looking for the sexiest piece of eye candy that will work their arm. When many (not all) of these women begin to lose interest because the man does not provide excessive materialistic support, men quickly assert, there are no good women. But think about, it takes money to look good, and these ladies aren’t spending money to look good for just anybody.

I know one guy, who is decently good-looking, has good money, and nice cars, but he always complains that women only want him for his money. Why? Because he only goes for the buxom, peroxide blonds that are, CLEARLY, only interested in his money. When introduced to a nice, natural girl, he didn’t even give her the time of day.

I see an appreciation from “old-school” men that I see seriously lacking in men today. A man always wants a beautiful woman by his side, but he sees other qualities in a woman, that makes her prettiness shine.  So, I say, men think with your heart and mind, not with you eyes and your “you know.”

Single with Cat . . . Not so bad!

Don’t judge a book by its cover! This woman from a small village in England has wowed the world with her voice. She gives older, single women hope to achieve their dreams and she makes being an old maid with cats look oh so good! Go, girl!

P.S. She’s already been offered tours and contracts! To see full video go here .

Forgive Him, Forgive Her Not

It has been said time and time again that women are more forgiving and kinder than men. We are emotional beings and men the rational ones (although, I don’t personally completely agree). I always see women forgiving men for their lying, cheating, and deceit, but hardly do I see men forgive women. Why is it that when men are done they’re DONE? And women forgive and forgive until they finally wear themselves out emotionally?

I think that people should treat people the way they want to be treated. If someone forgives you, you, naturally, expect that the person being forgiven would forgive you as well; but that is not the case, men make rash and firm decisions about what they want to do and women consider their emotions, and the situation as a whole and that seems to kick them in the face.

It’s not fair. It’s not fair that women seem to get the short-end of the stick, but then does that mean that we have to be more decisive and strong about our decisions? I guess so.  So, when you feel in your heart of hearts that you’ve been hurt, don’t forgive because mostly likely you’ll get hurt again, and again and again; and once you act out you’ll  be judged harsher than you’ve judged them. So don’t take the risk of getting the boot when you wanted to do it first.

 

to all the boys I’ve loved before by Mayda Valle

 part 1:

we are not your mothers
and are not meant to be
it is not our responsibility to raise you into respectful beings
you have been weaned from the breast of a woman for years
yet you come to us
wounded and half filled with promises you can only keep half the time
trying to suckle our sense of self dry
we’ve become much to accustomed to sleepless nights and damp pillows
have become accustomed to waiting for our empty beds
to be weighed down with the bodies of men heavy with the scent
and the hands of other women
mornings with swollen puffy eyes are becoming routine
and we simply wanting to be loved
simply wanting to be able to love ourselves unconditionally
simply wanting to be held and feel safe
simply wanting the truth of whether you can really love us or not
play Hester Prynn
wear scarlet letters on our chests
become adulteresses
cheating ourselves out of what we truly deserve
willing to settle for less
willing to act like a little less than a goddesses
willing to sleep with the enemy
men too scared to stop acting like boys
thinking we can love away their scars
so we take the lashes of the insecurities they pour on us
and lick our wounds in quiet mourning for the little girls we lose by the minute
fast fading memories of playing hopscotch
and skippin’ rope
we now play freeze tag with each other’s hearts
play hide and seek with our love
if we just don’t breathe maybe we won’t get caught
up in the spider’s web we weave while waiting for what we give away to be returned

What Women Really Want

What women really want is just this. . . .

Another Article on the Election

Election Day will soon be upon us and I wish that I could write an objective article on it, but the reality is that I am very liberal and disillusioned with the route that our country has taken. Come Election Day, I want a President that represents the voice of the people and will revitalize our country economically, politically, and in the eyes of the international realm.

America needs a leader that is hopeful, thoughtful, and has solutions. We don’t need patriotic rhetoric; we need solutions and actions in improving America. I believe that Obama is our man. He represents change and has handled his campaign with tact. Of course, I don’t believe that he’ll be able to achieve all the things that he states, because he is a politician and false promises are the norm, but I know that he is the catalyst to a new beginning.

Obama is practical, driven, focused, realistic and for the people, for the nation, not just for a specific group of people, but for Americans as a whole. I think it’s unfair when he’s labeled as unpatriotic or when he’s called a socialist. This one word verbiage is disturbing and completely underhanded. It puts these images and words in the public’s mind without offering accurate definitions. I know that politics is manipulative, but when strong words that resonate negative and unpatriotic sentiments amongst the public are used, I think that’s just dirty.

Socialism is not something that many people can explain, but most Americans think “it’s bad.” So to throw that word into the minds of American is an underhanded trick and shows the character of the McCain camp.

Yes, there has been attacks thrown around by both parties, but accusing Obama of unpatriotic and socialist policies is hitting below the belt. I think that the candidate with tact, integrity and real solutions is the person America needs.

While, I respect everyone’s opinion, I think that we need to look at the mass that each candidate attracts and then we’ll see what these men represent. McCain attracts the elite, and “the rednecks that hold on to God and guns.” To me, this would define McCain as a racist, elitist. Obama attracts the rich, the middle-class, and the working class which means that he is a man that everyone can relate to. Obama represents the American ideal; a man that comes from a diverse background representing the American melting pot, a man that grew up within poor means and has made it through Harvard to the Senate to the first African-American OFFICIAL presidential candidate for a major political party.

McCain is stagnant, conservative, old and gives us the possibility of having Sarah Palin as President.

Obama represents revitalization and this country needs new beginnings to continue forging on in our time of crisis.

Vote on Nov. 4^th

What’s Stopping You?

Lately, I haven’t had much to say, but ironically enough, I’m interested as to why I haven’t posted in a while. This blog is something that I enjoy doing. I like expressing my opinions, sharing, and writing, but yet I haven’t written in a long time. Why is that?

 

Why is it that more often than not we stop doing the things we love? Yes, life demands a lot from us i.e. work, family, financial responsibilities, etc., but can’t we find a moment to stop and do what we love? We can, I know we can. It takes effort, but we can achieve it. I think that we do have a lot going on in life especially right now with elections, financial crisis, and horrific natural disasters, but if not now, when? When are we going to make time to do the things we love? It is one life and we need to find time to do the things that we find self-fulfilling.

 

I’ve seen too many people sacrifice their passions and, as cliché as this is, their dreams for people that, in the end, don’t appreciate them and outlive them. This is not to say that we don’t need to take care of our responsibilities but take care of you, too.

 

Stop putting off things because they seem trivial although it would be something that you enjoy. Don’t take life for granted because we have some many resources to make anything we want to do possible. I have desktop, two laptops and get out of work at 4:30, why can’t I make time to write? Yes, I do other activities, but there is enough time in the day for me to pen down my thoughts and inspirations.

 

So think about it, what is stopping you from doing the things you love?