The Fail-Proof Broken Heart Treatment

For the second time around, I’m reading “Eat, Pray, Love”, an uplifting and inspirational book by Elizabeth Gilbert;  while reading it, I came across “The Fail-Proof Broken Heart Treatment” and decided this is something that needs to be shared because we often suffer horrible withdrawal after a broken-heart and try to do things like keeping busy with work, crying, and talking endlessly about the heartache in order to get over it, but I think the steps described in the book by a Balinese Healer are actually helpful and realistic steps.

“She said, ‘I know cure for broken heart. ‘Authoritatively, and in a doctorly manner, Wayan ticked off on her fingers the six elements of her Fail-Proof Broken Heart Curing Treatment: “Vitamin E, get much sleep, drink much water, travel to a place far away from the person you loved, meditate and teach your heart that this is destiny,” (264).

I never fully realized the power of the heart and heartbreak until I experienced it and being the ever practical, and somewhat impatient person that I am, I want a solution besides “the healing power of time.” These steps really do help because I have personally taken some of them and will make it a point to follow through on the others. Yes, it takes time but in that time take these steps to make it pass and once you go through them you’ll find yourself in a better place and with a clearer perspective.

Vitamin E: Supplements never hurt anyone and vitamin E has many benefits especially skin benefits and it aids in the prevention of many diseases like Alzheimer and asthma. So you’ll have great skin and healthy insides to attract the next one and yes there’ll be a next and potentially a better one if you learned your lesson the last time around.

Sleep: Sleep is restorative; through sleep we regenerate our mind and soul. Get rest because the emotional roller coasters can be exhausting, plus when you’re sleeping you won’t be consciously torturing yourself about the whole thing.

Drinking water: Through water you purify and hydrate your body. It filters all the bad stuff out and it will quite literally cool your insides which have been on fire since the bum played you.

Take a trip: It doesn’t have to be far but get away from it all. Get away from all the reminders of the relationship and the stress of your normal life that only exasperates the pain that you’re feeling. Go visit family in another state, a weekend in your best friend’s parent’s country house, or, if you can, go to another country. Yes everything will be the same when you get back but at least you’ll be calmer and therefore better equipped to deal with it all.

Meditate: Too often we don’t reflect on our heartache and what it has changed in us and how we can protect ourselves from future relationship problems. Through meditation we can better understand the situation without the heartbreaker and soothe our emotions. Meditation can be quiet reflection, deep breaths, yoga, or praying. By meditating you can create peace with the situation and not walk around like a zombie. Remember, meditation doesn’t mean analyzing every single detail of the breakup; it means situating your inner thoughts and feelings so that YOU can feel at peace.

Destiny: Although we have free will and the ability to shape our lives, ultimately a lot of the things that happen are out of our control, and we have to accept them as givens, as our fate, and move on from there. The reality is that life happens and we can’t always make sense of everything nor should we. We should accept that it was part of our destiny and move on from there. This is the hardest of the 6 steps because we are always analyzing our lives and want to maintain control of it, but the reality is that our lives are influenced and sometimes determined by other people and events that are beyond us, but through meditation and centering ourselves we can learn to neutralize our reactions to our surroundings.


9 thoughts on “The Fail-Proof Broken Heart Treatment

    1. Destiny is definitely a difficult one especially when you want to be with that person and when you can’t really imagine yourself with someone else, but with acceptance comes hope that something bigger and better will come around.

  1. Wonderful post! I have never heard of that book before. I am going to have to get it!

    What help me the most is “getting away” and “mediating.” It is always good to quite your mind from all the chatter in your head.

    Oh and sleep was a huge help!!! I probably slept to much! LOL

    1. Thank You! This is an amazing book full of aha moments, funny moments, and nurturing moments. I love this book and have read twice and will read it again. I always discover something new in it.

      I took every single one of these steps after my abrupt breakup and I feel so much better now. I look back to where I was a few months ago and where I am now, and I am in a completely different place. Getting away was big one for me!

  2. I have just had my heart broken….by a man everyone says I’m too good for. I can’t imagine ever loving anyone like that again though. We were the best of friends, and I wanted nothing more out of life than to make him happy. But he had had his heart broken, just like he broke mine, and he couldn’t bring himself to love me enough. I’m worried that I’ll never get over it. It’s been three weeks and I just can’t see a way out.

  3. I completely understand how you feel Screamer and I know that no words are comforting at this time but I was there 5 months ago. I looked like someone ran over me with truck then backed up and ran over me again. Take time to heal. It took me three months and I was taking all the steps mentioned in this post. Time and actively trying to move on will make it all better. Feel free to email me at if you want more in-depth suggestions, but trust me although you don’t see it there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

  4. I, too, was inspired by this delightful book!! If only we could all take such a life-voyage at the horrible time of heart break! But since we often can’t, at least we have the inspiration, experience,and joy that Ms. Gilbert shares with us via her book. Heartbreaks are the worst!! My personal fave is to get far, far away from the person and the “scene of the crime” per se. No, it doesn’t solve everything, buut it really helps to put it all in a better perspective, especially through the worst of it!
    Blessings to you both (Drama and Screamer)!

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