They say that men are more direct and that they tell it like it is. When they feel something they really let us have it. I beg to differ. Men are just as confusing as women, what they can do is cut you off with the quickness of a karate chop, but when they do it, are they clear about why? Not so much. Do you remember SATC Season 6 when Burger tells Carrie that he needs a break only to come back and say that he wants to give it a shot? To only then leave her in the middle of the night and she wake up to a post-it note saying: “I’m sorry. I can’t. Don’t hate me.” That is not being direct. Or when in my personal experience a man tells me, “I’m not going anywhere” to only tell me a week later, “I need time to myself.” aka “I want to date other people.”
Being direct is not about cruelly cutting someone off, it is about approaching someone with maturity, tact, consideration and expressing your TRUE emotions to come up with a mutually convenient resolution. I don’t believe for one moment that “men are more direct than women.” More resolute? Maybe. Direct? No. Being direct to me is being honest, completely honest. Example, “I don’t like you because you smell.” Not she smells and he says, “It’s not me, it’s you.” Those severe actions that characterized men as honest is inaccurate but these actions couple with the truth make for a direct man.
So men, if you have something to say, say it. Don’t pull out the saber without a few words of truth. Do like in the action films, right before wielding the sword of death the hero, always says, “I am going to kill you for killing my family, hiyah.” So it’s quite okay if you say, “I’m going to give you the axe because I want to tap that other chick’s a**. Peace.” Hurt is hurt. The truth is the truth. Being direct is what you’re apparently known for, so why not take it all the way?