The last installment of “Why Men don’t Choose “The Good Woman.” Thank You AnonymousMale1 !
Now let’s get back to Kevin shall we? After careful thought Kevin told me that he wasn’t sure why he was addicted to this woman who he knew not to be good for him or anyone else for that matter. He described her as being needy, selfish, judgmental, unreliable and untrustworthy. However, he added that the sex was incredible!
When I reminded him that there was no such thing as bad sex, he reminded me that there really wasn’t, however according to him some sex is simply much better than others as was the case with her. Women, you know what? You really are right about us, we spend nine months of our lives trying to get out of the womb and the rest of our lives trying to get right back in it.
Anyway, when I asked about the other girl, the good one (#2), he paused. He then did something I didn’t expect, he described her with a kindness that was reserved for people who you truly respect and admire. While making these statements I could tell that internally he was actually comparing the two women probably for the first time.
He informed me that this woman, the woman who made sure that he had everything that he needed and ensured that he was always taken care of had been this way since the day he had met her. He went on to say that she was kind and polite and she never pushed him towards anything or ever asked him for anything during the entire duration of their relationship. He also added that she was stunningly beautiful.
I didn’t even have to ask the next question, he answered it on his own. He said that she was really the type of woman that he felt he needed in his life and that in retrospect the other woman (#1) was simply a waste of time and effort. The conversation ended and we went on with shooting basketball.
I didn’t think much more about this situation which happened a few months ago until I was asked to write this post and it jumped back at me from my mental roller deck. It seemed like a good idea to include it because it is a prime example of why some men chose bad women and overlook the good ones.
Now before I end this post I would like to ask you a very important question if you don’t mind? Please be honest with yourself when you answer because only you and any men you have been with will know the truth anyway. Are you really a good woman? Or simply a bad woman in disguise?
P.S. Damn, I almost forgot to tell you the ending. A few weeks after our talk, Kevin called me and gave me his new cell number. He had changed it because he said after our talk he told the bad woman to take a hike. He said that she couldn’t take the hint to stop calling him so he changed his number so that she simply couldn’t call.
He also moved out of his apartment and into the apartment with the good woman so that they can see if finally he can muster the nerves to make the ultimate commitment eventually (marriage). So in this case the good woman actually won!
Now the moral to this story is that generally when as men we do chose the good woman, most times it’s for keeps!