The recent episode of Kourtney and Khloe Take Miami, struck a light bulb over my head. Intrigued by the characteristics described by the forensic specialist interviewed by Khloe, I looked further into the definition and characteristics of a sociopath. As I did my research, I realized that I had dated a sociopath but then I realized that many men, a lot of men, possess the characteristics of a sociopath. Then horror struck. . . Are all men sociopaths?!!!
Before I further explore this topic, I think it would be appropriate for me to define a sociopath. According to this site, a sociopath has the following qualities:
- Glibness and Superficial Charm
- Manipulative and Conning
- Grandiose Sense of Self
- Pathological Lying
- Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
- Shallow Emotions
- Incapacity for Love
- Callousness/Lack of Empathy
- Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
- Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
- Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Running over this list, don’t a few of these characteristics seem familiar. . .? Now, I’m not going to sit here and say that all men are sociopaths because that is completely unfair and not true but I do find it intriguing that men exhibit some of these characteristics in a relationship. But to their defense, men are taught by society to withhold emotions and lying is validated, so maybe it’s not a mental disorder as much as societal rules imposed on men.
I know that the last guy I dated had all these qualities but he wasn’t violent and I never felt physically at risk but he did attempt to ruin me in other ways. Having realized that I dated a sociopath is scary but at the same time I’m grateful that I realized in time although I couldn’t define him as a sociopath then.
All this is to say that you need to be careful about who and how you let people into your life. Not to be a cynic but if it’s too good to be true then it probably is and if someone is asking you to make lavish investments in them, and is telling you all the things you want to hear then question his motives. 1-4% of people are sociopaths. That might seem like a small percentage but it actually equates to millions.
There are tons of stories where women fall for con men and their lives are left in shambles, so it’s important that you recognize the red flags and exaggerations early on so that you don’t get caught up later in the relationship.
We’re all human so just because someone makes mistakes doesn’t make them a psycho, but stay on your toes and remember you can’t change him. And you shouldn’t want to change him. If he has this abusive mental disorder and the only person who will suffer is you. If you are involved with someone that exhibits the traits of a sociopath then do a double take. Don’t take the characteristics too literally but be aware.
By the way, realizing that an ex is crazy is great closure . . .
I know that this is a loaded post, but what are your thoughts? Are all men sociopaths? Why do they exhibit some of these qualities? Have you ever dated a sociopath?
[image: American Psycho]