In our twenties, we are often just as confused and irresponsible as we were in our teenage years. We are still trying to find ourselves, we’re partying, and we’re not completely sure about what we want out of life. In the midst of our reckless confusion, accidents happen. A condom breaks, a moment of passion overcomes you, or you just didn’t think it could happen to you. But it did. You’re pregnant.
What to do? I mean you’re not a kid so technically you are capable of having it but then again, you’re single, in between jobs, and honestly would rather buy a pair of high-fashion shoes than a box of diapers. Having a baby is a big responsibility and more women than we know are shying away from it when the circumstances are less than optimal. There are more women than we would like to admit that opt for abortion because a baby would put a huge damper on their long-term goals. Before babies were seen as a blessing and a twenty-something year old woman was seen as more than capable of having one. But the times have changed. Women between the ages of 20-24 account for 33% of all abortions while women age 25-29 account for 24% of them. Interestingly non-cohabiting women account for 45% of all abortions.
Why do women chose not to have the baby?
The answers are obvious and limitless.
In our twenties we are still trying to find ourselves. Given that we are part of a generation that suffer quarter-life crisis, how can we bring life into the world and responsibly raise it? Do people in middle-life crisis have babies? No because most women can’t. . . . But what I’m saying is that society has reconstructed our twenties to be much like the Roaring Twenties, a time of change and modernism. Having a baby in your twenties means stopping your life, making major changes and being dependent on others. It is a time where you don’t have financial nor personal stability. Most of the women that I know who have had abortions are not ready to “settle.” Although having a baby is beautiful event, under less than optimal circumstances, it can be a stress that derails your plans. Having a baby means that your life is over and you and Baby X’s life has just begun. When you have a baby it’s not only about you.
Now, I’m not saying that having a baby is the end of life as we know it but it puts you in a limited situation. It’s not about you anymore, it’s about Baby X and I firmly believe that when a baby comes into the world, the focus should be on him/her. That’s why I, personally, think that you need to be in the optimal situation in order to have a baby or have an extraordinarily helpful and accomodating family. Women in their twenties might be biologically ready to have children but in the midst of trying to get ahold of your senses and fufill your own dreams, having babies is a commitment that might compromise your own personal goals.
Although there are countless reasons why women in their twenties might not be ready to have babies, it is not an easy choice to have an abortion because in the end of day, it is a life and abortion is stigmatized. When it happens a woman might feel guilty, angry, unsure, and even regret but so many women actually do it and I think it’s because they’re not ready but more importantly they want the opportunity to provide the best for themselves and their future family.
What do you think? Should a single, woman in her twenties have a baby? Is she ready? Why do women in their twenties decide not to have unplanned babies?