Recently, I received a phone call from an unknown number who happened to be an oh so special friend who took me through hell and back. I’d blocked him from every aspect of my life and I hadn’t spoken to him since May. He called to see , “How I was doing” ( I almost cursed him out for that casual comment). I, abruptly, hung up on him. This incident made me realize that they always come back. We always cry our eyes out after a breakup, feel empty, hurt, and like there’s a gaping hole in our chest. Once you breakup it doesn’t mean it’s over. In my experience and observations, men always come back.
There hasn’t been one time when I’ve cried my eyes out, been depressed and convinced that I’ll never see him again only to receive a phone call in a week, a month, a few months or a year later saying, “How are you?”
But this only happens when you respect the “breakup” and don’t call him. Ever. When men breakup, they expect the “crazy, stalkerish” behavior and when you move on and don’t give them the importance of calling, he’ll call you. Yes, he might be calling you to see if he “still got it,” but he’s still the one calling.
So, don’t lose your mind thinking you’ll never see him again or hear from him because you will.
I’m not going to tell you what to do with this because it all depends on whether or not you want to reunite but I will tell you this, always keep the upper-hand. Once he calls you, you have the power.
What has your experience been? Do your exes always hit you up after a breakup? Do you feel devastated and feel like you’ll never see him again?