As Thanksgiving came and went, my thoughts naturally turned to what I’m grateful for in life. As I reflected on where I was a year ago (heartbroken, overweight, unhappy, frustrated), I realize that I am grateful for all the bad things that happened to me especially the heartache. I know that sounds weird but bare with me.
Through my worst moment I was able to come out renewed, appreciative and wiser. I figure if bad things don’t happen then we can’t grow and we don’t realize what is good until we’ve seen the worse.
My heartache, forced me to value myself. When I saw how badly a man could treat me, I realized he was only treating me that way because I allowed him to and when I realized that he wasn’t even on my level, I appreciated and celebrated all my accomplishments. When I saw that he wasn’t focused on me, I realized that I have to focus on myself.
I know that heartache is an immense pain but I know the pain was necessary for me to leave behind insecurities and negativity. It was a guarantee that I would never let someone hurt me that way again.
I say this because I believe that this is the right attitude to take when you break up with someone. A learning experience. Learn from the hurt and learn from the relationship so that you can grow as an individual and you’ll never give someone an open door to hurt you again. Let a breakup be a moment of clarity and not of darkness.
What are you grateful for in your relationship history? How do you think a breakup should be approached? What have you learned about yourself after a breakup?