I usually don’t like New Year’s. As a pessimistic Capricorn, I see the new year as the end of a year instead of the beginning of a new one. Sad, I know. But, this year is different. I feel good about 2011. I’ve had a rough 3 years as my horoscope predicted and this year things are going to start coming together (the continuation of a 12 year construction and deconstruction. . . thrilling I know), so please tell me why he decides to send me a lovely facebook message on the beginning of my new chapter?!, “Happy new year u still hate hope not.”
Major *sigh*. Ignoring the spelling and grammar mistakes.
Why would the man that majorly hurt me send me a message on New Year’s Day?! Great start to my year, but instead of getting mad and ignoring him, I decided to engage. I responded with a cool and curt message thanking him for the thought and the life lesson that he taught me, assuring him that I don’t hate him. He responded but his response is not important what’s important is that eventually you have to engage with the ex in order to get rid of him. Eventually a man is suppose to get tired of bugging you but if he doesn’t it’s time for action.
You need to be blunt, rude, and honest. He’s obviously so full of himself that he believes that he still has an in and you need to shut down that situation. Don’t be afraid to assert yourself and give him a piece of your mind because if you don’t put a stop to the constant intrusion then he’s going to feel like he can weave in and out of your life. It’s hard to give someone a piece of your mind sometimes especially when it’s someone you cared about but for your own sanity and personal growth you need to get rid of detrimental exes.
It’s selfish for someone to continuously contact you when you have made it clear that you want nothing to do with him and if he can act selfishly then you should too. Give him a piece of your mind and block him!
Happy New Year’s and Many Blessings! Make sure that you are in control of your life and no one else!
What do you think? Do you think you should continue to ignore the ex or do you eventually need to say something? What would you say to a pestering ex?