Recently, I was talking to my mother about men, particularly about men and forgiveness. She explained to me two situations where men have committed terrible transgressions (yes, I used alliteration on purpose), realized they were wrong, and came crawling back. One man left his woman for a 17 year old that he quickly married and had children with. I guess once he realized he was having children with a child he begged his ex for another chance. She forgave him and he put a ring on it. Another man cheated on his wife and had a child out of wedlock. His wife let him have it but stayed with him until he died at 100 and she 101.
My thing is, why do we always have to forgive men? Why must we always understand them? And why must we always justify their mistakes with psychological and sociological explanations? Why do WE have to accept men as they are?
Women are always told men will be men and we must accept their faults and forgive them but why can’t men just make an adjustment ? Women are always willing to work it out and change, while men “promise” to change and don’t. They don’t because we always accept them regardless of what they do or don’t do.
I wrote a post about forgiveness and there is a noticeable difference between men and women. Women forgive a lot easier than men. I know a man who broke off his engagement with his fiancé because she was cheating on him but when he was cheating on her, she forgave him, multiple times.
I just think that we need to be less forgiving and not fear that valuing ourselves will result in being alone. We should raise our expectations, be tougher, and conserve our pride. Hold men to the same standard they hold us.
What do you think? Do we have to accept men as they are? Or should we hold them to the same standards that they hold us? Do men even have different standards than us?