When I started writing this post I argued that sometimes we need to look past a guy’s corniest and recognize his great and stable qualities. He may not have swag but he’s smart, funny, responsible and so on, but then I realized that the square can be a prick too! Although I am a strong advocate of standards, it’s important to remember that standards include traits that are beyond “good on paper.” The guy might have a college degree from an elite school, works at a major financial company, and even be slightly entertaining but if he’s condescending and insecure, what the heck can you do with that?
Sometimes we are so taken by what a guy has to offer that we don’t look at the red flags. Then there are those of us who see the red flags but think, “I’m being too picky,” or “He’s not that bad.” But a red flag is a red flag. A guy might have amazing qualities, but if he makes you uncomfortable and leaves you speechless (not in a good way) every time he opens his mouth, then leave it alone because nothing good can come from that situation.
This is a warning. Don’t be taken with a guy’s resume. Always make note of his social skills and personality traits. If every time he opens his mouth, you have a “Did he really say that?” look then walk away. Actually, run!
Have you ever met a guy that is good on paper but is an absolute jerk? Do you give it another chance or do you walk away from the situation?