My dear friend has told me recently, “we need to let men be men.” In the past, I would’ve exclaimed, “What the hell does that mean?” and spewed some feminist rhetoric but I’ve come to understand that’s she’s right. In order to have a successful relationship, “a man needs to be a man.” This not say throw on the apron, kick off the shoes and push out 8 kids while he works and goes bowling with his buddies. It means that everyone should be allowed to fulfill his or her role within the relationship. A man should be able to do for “his woman,” and she appreciate it.
All too often women want to exert their independence and in the process belittle her man but the same way that a woman wants to show that she can hold her own so does a man especially when he’s raised to be “the man.” I think that relationship structures have shifted and with that relationships have become difficult. No one knows what role they play in their relationship and because both parties want to exert his or her authority, disagreements are common. I think that women should feel comfortable with a man doing something for her and not take it as an offense. Letting a man provide doesn’t make you dependent, it makes you appreciative and takes some responsibility off your shoulders. It’s okay to let a man pick up a tab, hold the door for you, and fight a fight for you. Everyone wants to feel useful and when a man doesn’t feel like he can do something for you and add something to your life, then he’ll ask himself, “what’s the point?”
Therefore, relax, be a lady, and let your man wear the pants!
What do you think? Have relationship roles changed? Is it weak to let a man take care of you? How would you define relationship roles?