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I have a friend, lets call him Kevin for this post and, recently we were discussing his situation with two women. Kevin is single, late 30’s, a great job and has never been married. He’s been close to marriage on at least one occasion that I can remember years ago while we were stationed together in Hawaii. However, he has never taken the commitment plunge.
As Kevin and I were talking he began talking about this girl that he had been seeing in an on again off again basis. He simply could not understand how she basically made their relationship appear so insignificant. This fact bothered him and the fact that he had no control in how she felt or what she did bothered him even more.
As men I joked about the fact that he was whipped, and that’s why he couldn’t just let it go and move on. We laughed about it as he swore that this wasn’t the case. However, I watched him for several days and observed how his eyes lit up whenever she called, even though generally when she called it was to ask for something that would cost him money.
On the flip side of this story he also had a intelligent, attractive hard-working girl that he occasionally lived with whom thought the world of him. She cooked for him, cleaned for him, made sure he was comfortable and that all of his needs were met (according to him) both in and out of bed. Lets call her woman #2.
Once while we were out at a bar drinking a few beers woman #2 called. She simply wanted to know if he was ok and to let him know that she had cooked him dinner and placed it in the microwave so that he could eat when he arrived home. She was on her way to work and wouldn’t be there when he came by.
I watched this scenario play out between Kevin and these two women for close to a month before I had to ask this question of him. Dude, what the f**k are you thinking about? I wanted to know, how in the world could he be even remotely interested in a woman who basically didn’t give a shit about him and then him not give a shit about this woman (#2) who was everything any real man could ever want?